Well hello there,
I would like to officially introduce myself to everyone. My name is Krystal and I am the one behind the scenes at A Fashionable Approach. Since starting AFA, I’ve been a bit all over the place with my posts and really inconsistent. I’ve realized that just because fashion is in the title, doesn’t mean that it needs to be geared towards only fashion. Which is why I decided to relaunch myself as a lifestyle blog.
It is no secret to anyone that knows me that I love Harry Potter. I grew up reading the books and spent my teen years anticipating each movie. Hermione Granger was one of the first characters that I was able to connect with. She was smart, brave and determined. A female role that was not common in the other book series that I had been reading.
As I grew older, my admiration for Hermione only grew. The fact that Emma Watson played her in the movies made the character even more appealing. Emma is classy, graceful and an amazing actress. It wasn’t long before I started following her as an actress and soon I had seen everything else she was in. Amongst the Lindsay’s and Paris Hilton’s of the world, Emma’s good girl attitude was something that never wavered.
I have always believed that women and men are equal. I am a strong woman and have tried to surround myself with like minded women. It has never been a second thought to me that men and women are and should be treated as equals. It has never seemed anything but logical to me that both men and women deserve to be treated with the same respect. I believe in gender equality. Yet, I have never felt comfortable associating myself with the term feminist. I share the same beliefs as a feminist but I have never felt comfortable using that word to define myself.
Why is it so difficult for women to accept other women? In a world where we are still not considered equal to men, why must we work so hard against eachother? If you are career minded and can only think of how you can be successful and how hard you need to work to get there then you should not have to defend yourself to the women who are content with staying home, raising children and taking care of their household. However, you should not feel justified in tearing them down either.
For some reason, at some point in time, it became okay for women to attack other women for choosing a lifestyle that is different from theirs. It became a social norm for the stay at home moms and the working women to choose sides and battle it out. Who’s title is more demanding? Who are the harder workers? Who’s job holds more respect?
Why does it have to be one against the other. A real, mature woman should be happy for another woman, regardless of her choice. As long as they are contributing members of society, whether it is from the work they are doing at the office or at the home, then why should they be forced to feel bad about making their choice? Why should they feel the constant need to defend it? If a woman is happiest when she is at work, doing her job and getting things done, then she should be applauded. If a woman is happiest when she is at home, taking care of and nurturing her children, then she should be applauded. Neither one gets to “outrank” the other.
Women can be worse than men when it comes to judging other women. This idea of tearing down other women because they have chosen a different lifestyle than we have chosen for ourselves is quite simply petty and immature. If you are a real woman then you should be able to empower and encourage another real woman, regardless of their lifestyle. Tearing them down for it is the cowards way out.